As I sat with this month's Soul Growth Reading from Pause at the Well, one message came through again and again: Something new is birthing.
The Phoenix appeared.
The Butterfly appeared.
Rebirth appeared.
Transformation appeared.
THE MESSAGE IS CLEAR. The question is not whether transformation is real.
The question is: What do I need to stop doing and being to ALLOW it?
So often, we think growth requires adding something.
Another class, degree, strategy. healing modality or plan.
This invitation is much simpler. Just stop - doing and being what no longer fits who we have already become.
Stop carrying burdens that no longer belong.
Stop rehearsing stale stories that perpetuate stuckness.
Stop assuming that because something has always been so must mean it's actually so- because "it ain't necessarily so!".
This month's reading points toward a profound transmutation - a shedding of identities, beliefs, and unconscious patterns that once protected me but now limit my expansion.
Just Stop Resisting
Many of us spend enormous energy resisting change.
We cling to familiar discomfort because it feels safer than an unfamiliar possibility.
We argue with reality.
We negotiate with endings.
We try to preserve versions of ourselves that have already completed their purpose.
What if the things falling away are not evidence that something is wrong? What if things falling away are evidence that something is working? What would happen if we simply stop fighting the process?
Just Stop Defining Yourself by Old Stories
Perhaps the greatest invitation this month is to release attachment to labels.
These look and sound like stories that begin with:
- I am someone who always struggles.
- I am someone who gets overlooked.
- I am a caretaker.
- I am wounded.
- I am someone who needs to everything alone.
- I am too much.
- I am not enough.
Honoring the past and how these stories may have helped us make sense of our experience is critical. BUT they are not who we are.
Transformation requires creating space for a new story to emerge.
Try on not introducing yourself to yourself through your wounds or how wrong or bad things are.
Just Stop Pushing Through... this looks like letting go of forcing outcomes.
The card of Perseverance offered an important distinction. Perseverance does not always mean pushing harder. Sometimes perseverance means staying present long enough to receive what is already trying to arrive. Many of us have become experts at effort. We've learned how to grind and survive. There is time and place for pushing through - like in birthing. |
But perhaps the next chapter requires something different. Perhaps it requires trust, allowing and ease.
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One of the most beautiful messages in this reading was the repeated invitation to remain open.
Open to possibility, surprise,joy and most of all, to miracles.
Like a butterfly emerging from its chrysalis, we do not become all at once. Transformation unfolds in layers and requires letting go so that the soul can create.
Reflection:
As you move through this month, ask yourself:
What burden am I will to put down?
What story am I willing to stop telling as if it's true?
What identity am I willing to shed?
What fear am I willing to no longer feed?
What pattern am I will to stop using reasons to justify and explain?
What would become available if you allowed transformation to unfold?
The Phoenix does not rise while holding onto its ashes. The butterfly does not fly while remaining inside the chrysalis.
My invitation to you is to LET IT HAPPEN.
Just stop holding on to what no longer belongs in your becoming.
